Melisa Arnautovic
- Oct 15, 2022
- 2 min read

Are You Holding Back Your True Self?

Are you holding back your True Self because of who is present...?

Whether you are aware of it consciously or not, the likelihood that you supress parts of yourself in front of certain people is very high...

This is because of social conditioning and the belief systems that were given to you since before you can remember...

It is in the feeling of obligation and guilt that you get when the pressure of being the person they expect you to be is in order to gain their approval...

This is however not a healthy nor conscious way to cultivate genuine connections...

As you grow in life you won't necessarily be changing but you will evolve and expand...

You will embody more of your true essence, your strengths, the traits that make you unique...

With that comes the letting go of old connections that are no longer aligned with you...

And the incoming of new connections that nourish and support your soul's growth...

So how to know when we are holding back and what to do moving forward? 💭

Firstly know that every time you do this, you are abandoning your true self in order to please or keep peace with others, who you feel otherwise would reject you or not like the real you...

This is one of the worst things we can do, abandon ourselves and deny our true essence...

Get your notepad out and do this powerful exercise... 📚♥️

📝 Self reflection exercise questions;

1. Do I hide parts of myself that I otherwise would have naturally expressed, because of who it is in front of?

2. Considering these insights, in future I will ___

...start expressing myself truthfully in front of them and monitor their response

...and/or reduce my proximity to them.

The results will include you assessing the quality of your connections...

Who has your best interests at heart and who holds you back/tries to control you/punishes you every time you do express your true self...

Remember that your life force energy is channelled via your attention and the more scattered it is the more it leaks everywhere and you lose yourself in the mask of the ego...

Being stringent with your energy allows clarity and focus on what matters...

This is an important practice when stepping into your full authentic self and living your purpose, because your purpose literally is part of WHO YOU ARE...